And the award for best Halloween Missed Connection goes to…

One of my favourite parts of Halloween is navigating the city in full costume (via public transit, in particular), and acting as though absolutely nothing about my appearance is unusual.

As I took the bus to a friend’s party on Friday night, dressed as “Zooey Undeadschanel” (zombie Zooey Deschanel), in my best attempt at zombie makeup, I wondered if someone might be intrigued by me in my costume. I then caught a glimpse of my walking dead self and promptly put any hopes of a Halloween Missed Connection about me to rest.

But this definitely wasn’t the case for some other revellers leading up to Halloween, resulting in my other favourite part of Halloween, Missed Connections.

Best Halloween Missed Connection

There wasn't another priest like you

Sometimes, my favourite Halloween post is due to best costume, but it was the very clever final line which earned this post the top spot this year.

Let’s take a look at some of the others. This is a small sample, but we’ve got a few throwback pop cultural costumes – is there a hint of nostalgia in the air?

Fly Saturday Night

To the girl in the baroness costume

Go Go Power Rangers

Saturday night - Church Street - I was in costume

A GO Train ride, I was dressed as Joker, you were doing magic tricks!

Oct. 26 - Met in elevator in same apt building (purple and zombies)

Beautiful blonde at Steamwhistle Halloween party

Jessica Rabbit at Schuey's Halloween Party

Since it’s *officially* Halloween today (hurray!), who knows, maybe we’ll see some more pop up. In the meantime – in case you’re searching for a last-minute costume idea – why not check out these attention-grabbing costumes from Missed Connection Halloween’s past?

Happy Halloween!

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Shelter from the #StormTO

As I write this, it’s been raining for about four hours – what’s being called “#stormTO” and “#floodTO” on Twitter. I’ve been home inside, but power outages are scattered across the city, some of my friends’ apartments have been flooded, and reports are saying that there’s even more rain to come (we’re at 90mm, a far cry from the 1mm expected rainfall I saw when I checked the forecast this morning).

Natural disasters often have a way of bringing strangers together, but I guess there will always be people who don’t seize the moment.

I don’t know about you, but I think sharing an umbrella with someone would make a pretty sweet “meetcute.” But alas…

6:15PM - Earl Street - You Didn't Have An Umbrella, I Did... - m4w - 24 (Sherbourne and Earl)

{Click to enlarge image} 6:15PM – Earl Street – You Didn’t Have An Umbrella, I Did… – m4w – 24 (Sherbourne and Earl)

Girl with square tatoo on leg, reading in rain-JULY 8 - m4w - 26 (pool at Bathurst and Dundas)

{Click to enlarge image} Girl with square tatoo on leg, reading in rain-JULY 8 – m4w – 26 (pool at Bathurst and Dundas)

Green hair during the blackout - m4w - 25 (King st w)

{Click to enlarge image} Green hair during the blackout – m4w – 25 (King st w)

Take it easy out there, Toronto. Hope you’re safe, dry, and maybe even snuggled up to a loved one.

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Going on a Field Trip: Broken Social Scene Missed Connection

*Updated June 11* Two more Field Trip Missed Connections posted! See below.

I’m currently basking in the happytired glow of a wonderful weekend, which included attending Arts & Craft’s terrific Field Trip music festival yesterday.

As at most concerts, I took an informal, unscientific survey of the crowd, noting age, gender ratio, and perhaps most entertainingly (to myself), the proportion of the audience wearing plaid – what I call the “plaid quotient.” There was definitely a lot of plaid being sported, and many beards being rocked.

Missed Connection from Arts & Crafts Field Trip Festival

(Click image to enlarge) Missed Connection from Arts & Crafts Field Trip Festival

The above Missed Connection was not about one of the many plaid wearers. If I had to bet, I’d guess that the author was been wearing a crocheted top – the most popular female apparel at yesterday’s event, it seemed.

This author gets points for persistence, writing about a guy she stood next to throughout the whole set (and who seemingly focused his own romantic efforts elsewhere). Guess she was determined to drink lover’s spit?

There’s only one Missed Connection so far from Field Trip – surprising, given the attractive and seemingly good-natured crowd… I’ll update the post if any more appear!

Two more recent Missed Connections – once again, both w4m:

Missed Connection: Field Trip - Fort York - w4m (Bloc Party )

(Click image to enlarge) Missed Connection: Field Trip – Fort York – w4m (Bloc Party )

Missed Connection: Tall, Bearded Man in bathroom line at Field Trip - w4m - 30

(Click image to enlarge) Missed Connection: Tall, Bearded Man in bathroom line at Field Trip – w4m – 30

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Data, A Love Story

“How could the experience of online dating be improved?” has been a pet topic of discussion between a friend and I for quite some time.

So, when we first heard about Data, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating and Met My Match, by Amy Webb, our curiosity was naturally piqued. I finally got my hands on a copy and quickly made my way through the very entertaining book. Webb describes in self-effacing detail how, after several relationships and a long run of terrible online dates, she drafted a laundry list of criteria that would define her ideal partner. Not stopping there, she assigned point values to each attribute, and vowed not to go on dates with anyone who failed to meet a certain threshold.

Realizing that her own dating profile and real-life appearance would be unlikely to attract the kind of man to whom she’d be attracted, she set up 10 fake male dating profiles. With meticulous attention to detail, she recorded every interaction real-life female users initiated with the fake profiles. Based on these data, she determined how to optimize her communications and profile to be equally alluring, despite not being the kind of bubbly blonde woman whose profiles attracted the most attention on the site.

Brilliant, right? Well, kinda. Continue reading

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How Do You Say “Love Train” in Czech?: Prague Metro Introduces Singles Dating Cars

Prague Metro

Photo via Spiegel Online

Six years ago, I visited Prague, home to some of the most beautiful metro stations in the world. While my friends and I chatted with an Australian guy and gal on the Metro (we wondered at first if they were Czech; they wondered the same of us; we all had a good laugh) and hung out with them for two nights, it’s not usually that easy to talk to people, let alone make instant friends, on a subway.

It’s long been apparent that one of the most prominent settings for Missed Connections is public transit. But now, Prague is implementing designated “dating carriages” on metro trains to make it easier to meet other singles, according to Der Spiegel.

Organizers hope that the trains will encourage drivers to take transit, and that this might ultimately help boost the low marriage rate.

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Documentary lovers unite! (Or do they…?)

I am a big fan of documentaries, and of Toronto’s annual Hot Docs festival. I basically have a standing birthday gift request for a pass, and I’m currently in the full throes of the fest – I’ve seen four documentaries in the last five days (and at least a couple more to go).

Standing in line at the Lightbox theatre this weekend, it struck me that it should probably be a good occasion for Missed Connections, or hopefully for actual connections. After all, you’ve got time to chat, as well built-in conversation fodder – “why’d you choose this film? what else have you seen?” – and so forth. Given the impressive range of films, attending the same documentary means you’re quite likely to have something in common with another festival goer.

So, sure enough, I checked Missed Connections, and there have been a few so far, including one at the box office, weeks in advance.

Hot Docs Missed Connection

Hotdocs, Bloor 9:15 line – continental – m4m – 35

Hot Docs Missed Connection

Hot docs on Bloor – w4m – 47 (Bathurst/Bloor)

Hot Docs Missed Connection

hot docs box office – m4m – 28 (hot docs box office)

Hot Docs Missed Connection

hotdocs lover – – w4m (isabel bader theatre)

Enjoy the rest of the festival, and here’s to not missing those documentary connections.

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The Odds of Finding Your Soulmate

“How many people are out there that you could love?”

That’s the question posed by a video from a new PBS digital series It’s Okay To Be Smart, featured today on Brainpickings.

In fact, it’s really more of a calculation of your pool of potential romantic partners, depending on where you live, your age, and assumptions about the mating pool.*

Joe Hanson of It’s Okay To Be Smart calculates the equation as follows:

  • Population in your city 
  • % of people in the city of your desired partner gender (he assumes 50%, unless you’re interested in both genders, then 100%. Well played, non-heteronormative science guy!)
  • % single (“you don’t want to break up any couples”)
  • % using online dating as a proxy for number of people you might encounter (about 37% use online dating, according to his figures)
  • % in appropriate age range (“Age/2 +7″ and “creepy old guy rule”)
  • % English speakers (assuming the seeker is English speaking)
  • Likelihood that you’ll find a given person attractive (based on a rough estimate/poll with his friends – he estimates it at 13%)
  • Likelihood that a given person will find you attractive
  • % with a college degree (his fictive love seeker has a love of science)

All told, he estimates that a hypothetical 25-year-old woman in New York has a pool of about 471 potential matches, just based on those fairly broad demographic characteristics.

I decided to calculate this equation for myself, living in Toronto, knowing that it’ll be lower. Based on 2011 Census data for Toronto, coupled with Joe Hanson’s assumptions, here’s how it breaks down: Continue reading

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